Who makes a good coach for my child? An age old question that is not simply answered. The truth is it depends on what you are really looking to accomplish. Are you seeking a physical activity, where your child can learn a sport and of course have a lot of fun? If this is the case then any Mom or Dad coach will probably meet your needs. Someone low key, very encouraging who will pat them on the head every step of the way.
If you are looking for your child to compete at a very high level, then you need someone completely different. I challenge you to conduct some very simple research. Take a look at the most successful teams/programs in your area. Next take a look at the coaching. Within reason I am betting these coaches, male or female, possess all or some of the same characteristics.
First and foremost they have a freakishly high softball IQ. They know the game inside and out and they have an uncanny ability to manage the game. When it comes to their team they exploit the strengths, while not becoming overwhelmed by the weaknesses. They use the strengths to develop non traditional ways to win. A great coach can win with mediocre pitching by placing an extremely high importance on quality defense.
Successful coaches are a little cocky, arrogant and full of themselves but these qualities that most of us usually find quite offending are what make them great coaches. They are demanding and sometimes not so softly spoken, but they all earn the respect of their players. Ironically enough parents are not always as smitten because these type of coaches believe they are better than most if not all other coaches and they are not shy about telling you what is good for your child.
You will also notice that the good ones respect other good coaches but they don't really like them. There is a simple reason for this. They are all super competitive, and all think they know better than the other. This is because they are all exactly alike. They are cut from the same piece of paper. If I did not just describe your coach, I am willing to wager a bet that your program is struggling at best.
I am also going to let you all in on a secret that struck me hard the first time I heard it out loud. Coaches have favorites. It's just a fact of life. I once had the privilege of helping out a legendary coach and one day we were sitting in the dugout and he started rattling off his favorite players . I was startled but he made no apology for it. Quickly I started to realize he didn't lack respect or love for the other players and it did not negatively affect the teams success. It was just simply a fact of life.