If you are a coach or admin then you have heard this line on more than one occasion, " I am not that parent who constantly calls to complain". However the very same parent does often call to seek detailed information or counsel concerning their player. They also constantly seek approval and oversight on their players training. Sort of being the team "Brown Noser". The reality is these parents are taking a very passive aggressive approach to actually complaining. This parent is all for the competition that exists within the team only until someone is brought in to compete one on one with their player. Passive aggressive complainer or very aggressive complainer means the same thing, "RED FLAG". Both have the very same fear that their player is going to fall behind and ultimately fail. The same parent will often give you this quote " I don't look at my child through rose colored glasses." NEWS FLASH !!!!! Everyone looks at their child through rose colored glasses to some degree. You are their parent that is your job. Although they would never admit it, they can only focus on their own player during the game and not the totality of the game itself. Because they can only focus on their player, they do not possess the ability or the knowledge to objectively compare their player to the rest of the players on the team. Therefore they assume by default everyone is performing at the same level. Ultimately these parents lose sight of the fact that this is a TEAM sport. Thus they are not teaching their player to be a good teammate. Another RED FLAG !
NEWS FLASH #2.... Your prodigy is not the only kid out there and it is not all about them. This is a TEAM sport and the coach has 10 or 12 other players and families to consider as well. If you are part of a competitive program this reality is even more important. Everyone wants to win, and everyone wants to impress the college scouts. If your player is simply not getting it done or even more unfortunate if the team has simply outgrown your player, then you need to consider adjustments. A good coach is going to be persistent in creating opportunities for the TEAM to improve. If your player improves with the team all the better. However. you cannot begrudge a coach who creates internal competition for the betterment of the whole. Your player needs to step up to the challenge or find a situation that better suits their level of play. Yes and perhaps that does warrant a heart to heart conversation with the coach, but consider having your player walk that walk alone.